Sunday, April 21 2019
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To Lie or Not to Lie
For the next two quarter we will be talking about lying. Some people don't consider themselves as liars. Researchers say that the average person lies 5 times a day. (Do you want to test that theory on yourself this week?) Have you ever stretched the truth, fibbed or did you just blatantly lie?
Share your perspective on lying …now don’t get caught by fooling yourself. Think of a lie you told, share it. Think about a time someone lied to you. Explain the circumstances. . .
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We talked about this, lying in 2017 and I was asked to bring it back this year with some of the comments in 2019. Please start sharing your views.
Lying can be stressful. Lies involve a whole lot of negative, physical and mental energy to keep up with the lie that was previously told. Keep in mind those that tell lies, will most likely lie to you, also. Lying to other can hurt, I know telling the truth can hurt other too. Which would you prefer and why?
Posted by ALC on 06/07/2017 - 03:30 PM
There are 5 different types of liars; the Sociopathic Liars--someone who lies continuously in an attempt to get their own way , without showing care or concern for other; Compulsive Liars are someone who continually lies from sheer habits. It is manifest during childhood because they are put into situation when lying comes necessary; then we have Occasional Liars who seldom tell a lie; the Careless Liars will go about their normal lives and lie every way they can; and the White Liars who don't usually think of themselves as true "Liars". Do you recognize any of these liars in yourself or other?--explain
Posted by ALC on 06/07/2017 - 03:40 PM
Lying can be a tricky situation if you make it that way! Honesty is the best policy, but extremely hard in politics and romance!! Giving raw truth to most is not palatable because they are not use to that type of approach (even though they claim they are) so you make adjustments aka sugar coating harsh realities for them!! It seems like a good idea at that time which I am guilty of, but it rarely ever ends well if the situation is brought back up and you have deviate from your first answer!! So long story short be honest!! Tell folks how you feel, what you mean and let the chips fall where they may!! Stop pretending you like something when you don't and give the opportunity to make revision for you and them!
Posted by Lonnie Chapman on 06/07/2017 - 04:03 PM
Lying is as common as breathing. There are probably very few who have never lied. Even though it may seem justified depending upon the cercomstance, in the long run it should not be done. The conviction to lie or not to lie can be debated from now to the end of time. Each person will ultimately make his or her decision on the matter. I leave it at that.
Posted by Teddy A Chapman on 06/07/2017 - 04:12 PM
The problem with lying is that it take a lot to remember a lie. In my personal opinion, it is too much work.
Posted by Loretta on 06/07/2017 - 04:28 PM
When it comes to lying most people lie to not hurt people's feelings. People also lie to get over on people or take advantage of them
Posted by Marcus A. Chapman on 06/07/2017 - 04:29 PM
Lying is a conscious effort to mislead someone for personal gain. It is also a means of avoiding conflict but only intensifies the situation.
Posted by Jeremy Davis on 06/07/2017 - 05:06 PM
All our life we are told not to lie. We lie on our taxes, lie on our exams, lie to our spouse, lie to our friends, lie to get that job and we don't want to about how we lie on those online dating application. You may call it exaggerating--call it what you want--you lied. Some lies become so big, they become monster that is out of control. I know you have heard about those lies.
Posted by AC on 06/07/2017 - 05:21 PM
I want you to brave and tell us about a lie you told, and why. You can use a fictitious name. You may have so many you don't know were to start. We don't care about your grammar or misspelled words. Your story may help someone see the damage it can cause. I know you are not a Sociopathic or Compulsive Liar or are you. Please share
Posted by AC on 06/07/2017 - 05:30 PM
I once went along with a lie. Someone told someone else something about someone that was an out and out lie. The person didn't like them and they wanted to make other people not like them. They said the person stole something at a party. To verify their story they said I saw the person steal the object too. I said I saw them steal the object to so I could stay friends with the teller of the story. I felt terrible later.
Posted by R Archabal on 06/08/2017 - 08:14 AM
So, I seen that people can influence you to tell lies even if you don't want to. I know one of my boss wanted my to lie about something at work. I just couldn't do it, needless to say--I lost my job. The claim it wasn't for that, but I know it was.
Posted by AC on 06/08/2017 - 08:42 AM
I would be on the phone with a friend that is so negative while I am driving ,so when I have had enough I say Girl I am going through a dead zone and I may lose this call then I hang up .
Posted by Shelley on 06/08/2017 - 08:52 PM
Lying I don't like doing; stretching or altering the truth I may do to varying degrees depending on the situation and who I'm speaking with. So is misrepresenting the full truth to avoid hurting someone or to avoid appearing irresponsible really a absolute bad thing? I guess it depends on the frequency and if in the long run it is hurting you and the other person.
Posted by Melinda on 06/08/2017 - 10:07 PM
Did anyone read the News today? Here is an insert. . .Voice your opinion Comey accuses Trump administration of 'lies' and defamation WASHINGTON, June 8 (Reuters) - Former FBI Director James Comey on Thursday accused the Trump administration of defaming him and telling lies about the agency,. . . "Although the law required no reason at all to fire the FBI director, the administration then chose to defame me and more importantly the FBI by saying that the organization was in disarray, that the workforce had lost confidence in its leader," Comey said. "Those were lies, plain and simple, and I am so sorry that the FBI workforce had to hear them and that the American people were told that," Comey said.
Posted by ALC on 06/08/2017 - 10:15 PM
Andrea, thank you for your discussion on the topic of lying. In my opinion, lying is not good, nor should lying ever be used as good. Think about how you would react to a person, whom you trusted once you discovered that what they said was a deliberate misrepresentation of the truth. It would be difficult to trust that person, again.
Posted by Frances on 06/12/2017 - 08:29 AM
I see there is one common thread in the topic on lying and that is we shouldn't lie but, we all do it for one reason or the other. Share your experience with lying people.
Posted by ALC on 06/14/2017 - 01:10 PM
The controversy between Mr Comey and Pres Trump comes down to who you will believe. Whether you personally like the person. Or your particular stand on how honest an organization or president is in your eyes. Most of our decision making is based on "hearsay". something somebody told us. All of the listed criteria above greatly influences whether we believe things or not.
Posted by T Chapman on 06/14/2017 - 06:36 PM
I have a question, is lying a family gene or learned. When I say family gene, I probably mean more of the environment a person grows up in. Can a person have more of a disposition to not tell the truth then someone else. It seems that for some lying comes so easy.
Posted by Melinda on 06/14/2017 - 08:56 PM
Lying and cheating results are the same Case and point when I was in business college I had to take typing I didn't take typing in high school I had all academic classes Well back to my point when they gave the speed test they would give you two test and you got to pick the best out of the two So being that I don't do well with failure I would look at the key board type like I knew what I was doing and when the teacher would say times up put your second paper in I would put the same paper in so it looked like I could type quite fast Well the joke was really on me because to this day I can't type without looking at the keyboard and you guessed it my speed is slow It doesn't pay to cheat because you lose on the end
Posted by Michele on 06/15/2017 - 10:50 AM
Melinda, I believe Genetics play a major role in who we are. There are others factor that influence who we are too. How many times have you heard, you look like your grandmother or you act just like your aunty? When you know your genetic lean towards a very negative behavior. . .be determine not to act that way. I notice I have some very strong negative behavior just like my mom, so I watch what I say and how I say it. This is my opinion.
Posted by ALC on 06/15/2017 - 11:00 AM
Michele, Cheating is like lying too. As you can see we cheat for different reasons. Have you even lied for the best interest of everyone or someone like the lady who lie in the Bible to save Joshua and his friend.
Posted by ACL on 06/15/2017 - 11:07 AM
Yes I have lied many times unfortunately not to hurt people feeling For instance about their food "girl how did you like my casserole and I would say Girl I have never had anything like it before Insinuating that it was good But I won't lied to a sister if her hair is outrageous or clothes is not becoming
Posted by Michele on 06/15/2017 - 04:50 PM
I'm not sure that I buy that lying is genetic. I believe environmental factors are more the reason for one who lies. I think that it is more a learned behavior through seeing it from parents. However, genetic may play a role but I think that it is a learned behavior. I can't really think of a lie that I have told as of recent, certainly not to say that I don't lie.
Posted by Loretta on 06/15/2017 - 05:51 PM
Genes: (in informal use) a unit of heredity that is transferred from a parent to offspring and is held to determine some characteristic of the offspring. heredity. the passing on of physical or mental characteristics genetically from one generation to another. These are the definitions of genes and heredity; therefore, I concluded that genes, our genes show up in different forms from one generation to another. I have been a counsellor for many years and I see traces of passing on behavior patterns. I know this is not the only factor that influence our behavior, but it is one.
Posted by ALC on 06/16/2017 - 11:31 PM
I'm not sure why lying seems so appealing. We do it so easily, after the fikrst few times. And it seems the more we do it, the easier it becomes. Could it be that our basic nature is to lie? If it is, we're in a sad state.
Posted by T Chapman on 06/17/2017 - 06:58 PM
This is somthing that I lied about in the past that I cleaned up my room when really I put all the clothes under my bed but mom knew that it was done to quick and to good to be for real So I guess you really can't fool your moms
Posted by King T on 06/19/2017 - 04:43 PM
I try to reserve my lies for not hurting people's feeling and occasionally if I am pushed up against the wall I will tell a small lie which is still a lie
Posted by Michele on 06/19/2017 - 05:14 PM
while i try not to lie to those i care about, i know i lie "like a rug" to telemarketers. "im busy", "i already gave" etc. Instead of just saying "sorry im not interested", and hang up. ive often wondered why i feel i have to justify myself to folk i dont even know for a product i certainly dont want.
Posted by Wendy Kaye on 06/19/2017 - 05:25 PM
When thing I noticed is that lying just don't hurt you but the person whom you lie too. They loose trust in you and your friendship. You notice it starts with little lies and when they seem harmless they multiply. You're not a really good person.
Posted by Mae on 06/19/2017 - 05:49 PM
I would not say lying but stretching the truth as someone said in an earlier post. We do that well I know I have in certain situations to have someone to do something for me
Posted by CoCo on 06/19/2017 - 05:53 PM
Back in the day parents (moms) started kids on a role of lying For instance we used to have insurance agents that came to the house for payments but when they knocked on the door and your mom didn't have the payment she would tell you to say My mommy is not at home so inadvertently she had started her child on a path of lying when you don't want to deal with bill collectors which rolls over to other area in your life Parents have to be very careful in what we have our kids to do that aren't honest because you grow up using this tool so often that you don't even realize that it has become apart if your character
Posted by Micki on 06/19/2017 - 06:42 PM
Once when I was a child I stayed with my grandma and cousin She would always getting in trouble and since I was my grandmas favorite I started saying that I did it so she wouldn't get in trouble but one time I really did do it and she still didn't believe me Sometimes adults assume the worst of someone because of their reputation
Posted by Bertha on 06/19/2017 - 08:45 PM
Bertha, You are right, once you go down that road as a liar, people will assume you lie about everything; in other words, you are marked as a liar.. . sad but true
Posted by ALC on 06/20/2017 - 09:15 AM
Micki, Unfortunately, our parents play a role in us lying very earlier. In one of my early post I talk about a compulsive liar. Compulsive Liars are someone who continually lies from sheer habits. It is manifest during childhood because they are put into situation when lying comes necessary.
Posted by ALC on 06/20/2017 - 09:20 AM
I often times lie not to hurt others feelings, but then I realized that you really don't have to lie one can just change the way that you say something. For example if someone ask me if like what they are wearing or their new hair style before I would say yea girl you look good, but now I choose to say well, it is not the most attract dress that you have ever worn..... or maybe you could have chosen a better choice of.... something that is not too brutal
Posted by Loretta on 06/20/2017 - 12:40 PM
Everything seems to go back to the good ole parents.
Posted by Loretta on 06/20/2017 - 12:42 PM
What's the saying "If all else fail, blame your mom". You notice I said mom. . .why is that?
Posted by ALC on 06/21/2017 - 01:52 PM
The conclusion seems to be that lying in any form is not good. And yet we (many of us including me) do it anyway. A good deal of lying is to prevent hurt to someone. Can the end justify the means? You decide.
Posted by T Chapman on 04/26/2019 - 09:18 PM
Lying is not good. The Apostle Paul encourages us to put on the new man, which is Christ. To do that, requires putting away lying, speaking truth with our neighbors. Eph. 4:24-25. King James Version. Lying never rights a wrong.
Posted by Frances on 05/02/2019 - 04:09 AM